I was talking to a friend of mine the other day who has been struggling to understand her faith. During the conversation she made a remark which I found intriguing. "I know I believe in God," she said, "I'm just trying to figure out who he is." (Very paraphrased) Given this as a springboard, I thought I'd provide my understanding of God as a personality. I'll leave doctrinal and metaphysical notions about God aside for now as much as possible and stick with God as a subject.
As stated in the book of 1 John, "God is Love" (1 John 4:8, 16). Unfortunately, the english language lacks the depth needed for this to make any sense on its own. If I were to replace the word love with something that explains God a little better, I would rewrite the sentance, "God is 'desiring of a deep, personal relationship with you so important that the relationship is maintained through anger, sadness, joy and pain and, when it comes down to it, death is a small price to pay to protect one another." Not quite as concise as the author of 1 John, but it feels a little more appropriate.
This love is generally framed as the love of a father for his children (thus, God the Father). I'd like to make a note on this: The word translated as 'father' in scripture does not mean 'father.' Abba means 'daddy!' It is an informal term of endearment, not a politically correct term. God loves us the way (good) parents love (good) children (though His love isn't reserved for those of us who are good children). We don't always understand why we have to eat our vegetables or why we can't play with the funny looking dog (which is actually a bear), we obey because we understand that our parents know things we don't. It's not always fun, and it doesn't always seem fair, but it's infinitely better than the alternative.
I'd like to append to this another important piece that's generally neglected. There seems to be an overwhelming emphasis on talking to daddy as though we're expecting a beating. In Luke 18:13-14, the parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector provides the imagery. "'But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, 'God, have mercy on me, a sinner.' I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.'" What we fail to keep in mind is that when you're 5 years old, sometimes you approach your parents ashamed, and sometimes you run up to them and ask them to play with you. Yes, we should approach God ashamed of what we've done, but we should also talk about other things. God wants a relationship with us, not just be a salvation vending machine. Look down and beat your breast at times, but turn your face to heaven and open your arms too! Pray "filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy." (1 Peter 1:8)
That being said, God is not always warm and fuzzy. As Exodus 20:5 shows, when providing the 10 commandments, the voice from heaven rumbles, "I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God." While I'm not sure I necessarily like the word jealous applied to God, the old testament "doom and gloom" notion of God is not one that can be left out. God will punish, just as any good parent. The unfortunate result of free will is that we have some authority over what happens, and sometimes that may leave God in a position He would rather not be in. I have a hard time believing that God really wanted to massacre the Egyptian army that tried to pursue the Israelites on their way back to Canaan, but it was ultimately more important for all of humanity that the Hebrew people survived in that instance. (Exodus 26-28) Sodom and Gomorrah were utterly destroyed (Genesis 19:1-29), but the real question is what would have happened had they remained? Another generation lost to sin? Other cities corrupted? It is important to keep in mind that, in the Biblical sphere, being lost to sin is infinitely worse than simply dying. Death means nothing; what you do in life means everything. We see the destruction of an angry and jealous God, yet I maintain this was not purely out of spite. Anger and jealously have their place, and sometimes they are the only way.
One version of God that very few people ever reference comes from a linguistic curiosity. The word translated as helper or handmaiden in Genesis which is used to describe Eve only shows up in one other place in all of scripture: Hosea 13:9, where it refers to God. This could be something of an allusion to Matthew 23:11, which is the infamous "The greatest among you will be your servant." Or, it could be taken in a much more equalizing way, presenting God as a nurturer and caregiver who seeks to assist humanity, not out of inferiority, but out of love.
The final Biblical image I would like to use, and my personal favorite, is God as the refiner of silver. (Malachi 3:3) The traditional method to refine silver is for the refiner to take a piece of silver ore in a special set of tongs, and put it into the opening of an incredibly powerful furnace. The ore must be held there for a period of time in order to burn out any impurities. The beautiful part is that as the silver becomes more and more refined, the texture smooths out, and the metal becomes reflective. A refiner knows when the ore is pure silver when he can see his reflection in the metal. While not necessarily the most comforting way to look at God, I find it meaningful and moving. God holds us in the hottest part of the fire to make us pure, and He knows when we are finished when He can see His reflection in us. :)
The final Biblical image I would like to use, and my personal favorite, is God as the refiner of silver. (Malachi 3:3) The traditional method to refine silver is for the refiner to take a piece of silver ore in a special set of tongs, and put it into the opening of an incredibly powerful furnace. The ore must be held there for a period of time in order to burn out any impurities. The beautiful part is that as the silver becomes more and more refined, the texture smooths out, and the metal becomes reflective. A refiner knows when the ore is pure silver when he can see his reflection in the metal. While not necessarily the most comforting way to look at God, I find it meaningful and moving. God holds us in the hottest part of the fire to make us pure, and He knows when we are finished when He can see His reflection in us. :)